Many men seek sex from a woman. They don't want to love or feel from their heart. Many women seek love from a man's heart. She gives him sex in hopes that one day he will return love with his heart. I am sure that there are women who fall into the same category as men who only want sex, but the numbers are far higher with men, as we see in the context of pornography users, buyers of women’s bodies for sex, customers at strip clubs, and modern brothels (such as massage parlors).
In today's secular world, lust is equal to love. They are one in the same. Some people wrongly think they love someone or that they are loved by a person, when what they are really feeling is lust. The definition of lust is "intense or unbridled sexual desire." This definition is not even close to the meaning of the word "love," as is defined throughout the Bible, God's instruction manual. Some people choose lust over love because they do not want to risk having their hearts broken. They settle for lust; an empty act; void of love.
Many men choose to have sex with images on a screen. They engage in acts of self-pleasure. They don't have to give their heart to the woman on the screen. There's no threat of having their heart broken. It's safe. There's no love to be found here. Only lust. Some married men choose to lust after women on the screen instead of giving their heart in love to the woman in their marriage bed. Lust leads to heartless acts, void of love. Lust does not equal love, nor does it lead to love. It only leads to loneliness and lovelessness.
"I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:28